Friendship
What does friendship mean to you?
From an early age I would always question what this meant to me and things have really changed since back in the day when i used to use the word 'friend' so loosely.
Day in day out I see people really being taken advantage of by so called 'friends' and it really saddens me to see that happening, not to mention when the victim at hand has a heart of gold!
Just the other week I heard tales about a friend borrowing over 500 pounds of money and is constantly making excuses when it comes to paying it back. And because the person at hand is too nice to be aggressive and demand it back, it seems like it could go on forever. Pretty harsh if you ask me.
Another example which is extremely important to me and I always seem angry at, surrounds birthdays. The 1 day a year that can be important and a reason to share an occasion with friends always seems to be a let down for people I have the upmost respect for. How can so many stupid excuses arise when they consider themselves a friend towards the person and then subsequently expect them to attend their birthday! The cheek!
"Sorry I dont have any money"
"Oh sorry I forgot!"
"Had too much work to do"
Bollocks. All of these arent excuses and people know it.
You dont have to buy a drink, if you forget it obviously means nothing to you, and work is easily planned around an evening if you stick to a schedule.
To even use them as an excuse is making you look like an idiot. You either have an actual reason or you dont. Simple as that.
If i consider you a good friend and am able to attend your birthday, I will be there no doubt. And thats the way it should be amongst friends! If its that much effort to attend a birthday, you are not worth the respect and hopefully some day you will have the same experience and realise the wrong doings.
/Rant off
So who do you label friends and what value do they have in your life?
This might sound pretty stupid but even the smallest things nowadays I dont take for granted like a simple message or happy birthday on bookface, a reply to a text i've sent or when people hold their promises to do something no matter how large or small. I keep track of this and bear it in mind whenever a favour is asked and if you give, you will ultimately recieve.
Unfortunately I do have people I would consider close friends that have let me down on these fronts and it really makes me question the strength of the relationship sometimes. Even with the best of mates! But ok, no-one is perfect so sometimes you have to be leniant. Of course there will always be obvious exceptions but one too many times and its just gets a bit much..
When it really comes down to the wire, it can really show you who are the most important people and you should always try your best to treasure these people as they are the ones who deserve it.
p.s. sorry for my sick humour =<
From an early age I would always question what this meant to me and things have really changed since back in the day when i used to use the word 'friend' so loosely.
Day in day out I see people really being taken advantage of by so called 'friends' and it really saddens me to see that happening, not to mention when the victim at hand has a heart of gold!
Just the other week I heard tales about a friend borrowing over 500 pounds of money and is constantly making excuses when it comes to paying it back. And because the person at hand is too nice to be aggressive and demand it back, it seems like it could go on forever. Pretty harsh if you ask me.
Another example which is extremely important to me and I always seem angry at, surrounds birthdays. The 1 day a year that can be important and a reason to share an occasion with friends always seems to be a let down for people I have the upmost respect for. How can so many stupid excuses arise when they consider themselves a friend towards the person and then subsequently expect them to attend their birthday! The cheek!
"Sorry I dont have any money"
"Oh sorry I forgot!"
"Had too much work to do"
Bollocks. All of these arent excuses and people know it.
You dont have to buy a drink, if you forget it obviously means nothing to you, and work is easily planned around an evening if you stick to a schedule.
To even use them as an excuse is making you look like an idiot. You either have an actual reason or you dont. Simple as that.
If i consider you a good friend and am able to attend your birthday, I will be there no doubt. And thats the way it should be amongst friends! If its that much effort to attend a birthday, you are not worth the respect and hopefully some day you will have the same experience and realise the wrong doings.
/Rant off
So who do you label friends and what value do they have in your life?
This might sound pretty stupid but even the smallest things nowadays I dont take for granted like a simple message or happy birthday on bookface, a reply to a text i've sent or when people hold their promises to do something no matter how large or small. I keep track of this and bear it in mind whenever a favour is asked and if you give, you will ultimately recieve.
Unfortunately I do have people I would consider close friends that have let me down on these fronts and it really makes me question the strength of the relationship sometimes. Even with the best of mates! But ok, no-one is perfect so sometimes you have to be leniant. Of course there will always be obvious exceptions but one too many times and its just gets a bit much..
When it really comes down to the wire, it can really show you who are the most important people and you should always try your best to treasure these people as they are the ones who deserve it.
p.s. sorry for my sick humour =<
